Can’t I Just Blame My Problems on Hormones (an Overtly Religious Post about Church Culture and Adolescent Turmoil.) | Teenagers are a little crazy. American church is a little crazy. Put them together and you might have a great excuse for a practically psycho young person. I truly found God when I stopped trying to be a good Christian and just followed the path of love – loving myself, loving others and loving God.

Why I Quit Trying to be a Good Christian

(an overtly religious post about church culture and the adolescent turmoil)

I was driving into work the other day and I had a sort of mundane epiphany.

(Now for all of you non-religious readers, you may want to turn away now. Or, you may want to see what I have to say. I am NOT going to get crazy or anything.)

I realized that I believe in God. (I’m not to the epiphany yet.)

Kind of weird I know. It’s not that I’ve never believed in God, because, actually, I always have. But I just realized that I really do believe. Like, I can’t separate myself from that belief.

In the same moment, I realized (here is the epiphany) I don’t have any doubts about God.

So when I say “God,” I’m talking about the whole Christian spiel: Jesus, miraculously born of a virgin and dying on a cross to save the world because he loves us. I have literally no doubts about it.

God loves me. God loves you. Jesus was real. What he did really happened. (I’m kinda making myself itchy just writing these things because I really don’t like religious jargon or flowery spirituality, but there comes a point when you just have to rest in who you are.)

Let me explain why this was an epiphany and a mundane one at that. Continue reading “Why I Quit Trying to be a Good Christian”

My in-laws taught me some very important aspects of Christmas.

What My In-Laws Taught Me About Christmas

My husband and I knew each other in middle school. He was in love with me, and I was tease. When we got married some eight years later, he remembered all these intricate details about myself; whereas, I could I remember one major thing about him.

His parents didn’t by him and his sisters Christmas gifts after they turned 12 years old. Instead they did good for other people.

I always thought this was crazy. But, for the first time last year, I experienced how his parents do Christmas. I learned two universally beneficial practices from them about the season. Continue reading “What My In-Laws Taught Me About Christmas”

I've learned so many life lessons from my mom over the past 24 years. You can learn from her too. Take a look at the 7 lessons my mom taught me.

7 Life Lessons My Mom Taught Me

We should appreciate our mothers. So, below is a letter to my financial on her birthday. It includes what I’ve learned from her over the past 24 years of my life, and it may open your eyes  to what life lessons you can learn from your own mother.

Sometimes we children don’t understand the sacrifice mothers make, but I’m asking you to take a closer look at what your mother has done for you.

A Thank You Letter to My Mom on Her Birthday

Mom,

Happy Birthday! I love you and I’m so thankful for you.

You have always made a way for us to succeed. A good mother gives it all for her children, and that is what you have done. You give, give, give. So on this day, I celebrate your birth and your life and the people you have impacted. Because it’s a lot of people! Continue reading “7 Life Lessons My Mom Taught Me”

Genuine friendship and community literally elongate our lives.

How to Become the Person You Were Made to Be Part Four: Get Outside Yourself

This is part of my “How to Become the Person You Were Made to Be” series. Here are the other sections if you missed them:

Listening (read this post for the introduction to the series)

Paying Attention

Self-Awareness

Part Four: Getting Outside Yourself

What does it mean to get outside yourself?

When I reference “getting outside of yourself” I’m talking about community, friendship, family and general service. We are communal being regardless of what the media suggests. We need friendship. We need human interaction. We cannot be the person we were made to be without others. All the other parts of this series have been leading up to this one.  Continue reading “How to Become the Person You Were Made to Be Part Four: Get Outside Yourself”

When we pay attention to others, it allows us to put aside ourselves and be present. It helps us practice contentment in our lives and love others accordingly.

How to Become the Person You Were Made to Be Part Two: Pay Attention

I am not the person I’ve always been. Eight years ago I was bitter, angry, insecure, passive aggressive and purposefully mean. I was trifling. I had allowed my circumstances to dictate my reactions and define me.

Now I’m different.

I’ve extended forgiveness, I’m mostly content, still a little insecure, my motives are almost completely pure, and I’m the nicest version of myself I’ve ever been. I can’t definitively say I am where I want to be, but I’m on my way.

I’d love to share my how with you.

Continue reading “How to Become the Person You Were Made to Be Part Two: Pay Attention”

How to Become the Person You Were Made to Be Part One: Listen

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When we choose to listen to others, it allows us to take one step closer to becoming the person we were made to be.

I am not the person I’ve always been.

Eight years ago I was bitter, angry, insecure, passive aggressive and purposefully mean. I was trifling, and I was taught to be that way.

I don’t mean taught like my parents literally gave me lessons in meanness. I mean I was my “circumstantial self” – I had allowed my life circumstances to dictate my reactions and define me. My husband always says I was, “simply falling down the funnel of my life.” He was right.

Now I’m different. I’ve extended forgiveness, I’m mostly content, still a little insecure, my motives are almost completely pure, and I’m the nicest version of myself I’ve ever been. (The list I just wrote is kind of hilarious to me, because I’m clearly still working on all of those things.) I can’t definitively say I am where I want to be, but I’m on my way.

I’d love to share my how with you.

Continue reading “How to Become the Person You Were Made to Be Part One: Listen”